Players: Husband and wife. Activists: Both. Setting: Home.
Game Plan: Most often, a couple whose sex life is constricted by political correctness (or, in the case of religious extremists, moral correctness) is acting out unconscious competitiveness. This competitiveness is based on narcissism—that is, on the need to bolster lagging self-esteem by defeating the spouse through gaining political and moral superiority. A wife may rule her husband by continually citing rules of feminism that he is breaking, and a husband can rule his wife by continually citing the rules of religion that that she is breaking. Not that there should be no rules or that they should never be cited; but some people, as I have noted, misuse them to put their spouse on the defensive or to gain an advantage that will allow them to defend against their own feelings of low self-esteem and envy.